My name is Freddie.
I am Romani, Disabled, LGBTQ, and speak my mind. I don’t expect my words to always be popular. I don’t expect people to agree with everything I have to say. But I ask those that leave comments to create civil discourse. This is my corner of the internet. And I won’t tolerate hatred.
My Latest Posts
- 39 things I learnt in my 30sWell I turn 40 on the 20th July. So I thought in the last day of my 30s I would curate this list of things I’ve learnt in the last decade of my life. They won’t apply to everyone but they definitely apply to me, and maybe some of them you’ll identify with. The onlyContinue reading “39 things I learnt in my 30s”
- I’ve forgiven you. I just can’t have you in my life.I found out this evening that he saw you today. That you questioned him on my name change and whether he was in contact with me. About where I am. That he told you he knew nothing. If you’re reading this, he lied to protect me. I didn’t ask him to, but he loves andContinue reading “I’ve forgiven you. I just can’t have you in my life.”
- It’s 2022 – Time for Netflix to stop the bigotryMany of us in marginalised communities have put up with the bigotry on television for way too long. It’s 2022 and it needs to stop. And right now I’m aiming this at you, Netflix. As a Disabled, Nonbinary, Lesbian Romani with friends from many other marginalised groups, I’m saying enough. Autistic Actors in Autistic Parts/DisabledContinue reading “It’s 2022 – Time for Netflix to stop the bigotry”
- Not a parent but still a parentThere’s a lot that those born with a uterus have to deal with in today’s society. If we don’t have kids we’re selfish. If we do have kids and we don’t stay at home, we’re selfish. If we opt to stay at home or work part time and make use of the welfare system thatContinue reading “Not a parent but still a parent”
- Understanding another part of my healing journeyA conversation with my friend AJ tonight got me thinking about my name. Or more specifically my old name. My “deadname”. The name I chose to legally shake and be done with once and for all before my 40th birthday rolls around the corner. It’s a name that was chosen by my grandparents. Specifically forContinue reading “Understanding another part of my healing journey”
- RSD, CPTSD, coping with both.I was born with RSD or Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. It often goes hand in hand with ADHD and Autism, and I have the trifecta. On top of that I have CPTSD or Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by multiple incidents of trauma. The RSD and the CPTSD combine to cause chaos. Or at leastContinue reading “RSD, CPTSD, coping with both.”
- I’m abstinent but I believe in optionsI shared the above clip of Claudia Christian talking about supporting those on the Sinclair Method of treating alcohol use disorder and one of my friends replied with “AA works if you work the program.” My response was it works for some and not for others, and that’s okay. We deserve options. Alcohol use disorderContinue reading “I’m abstinent but I believe in options”
- Enough with the Lip ServiceHave you ever felt that you were being paid lip service to? That you are part of a group or community that claims to welcome you and those like you but doesn’t do the work that it needs to in order to make that actually true?
- Melanie Phillips can kiss my tattooed BIPOC skinOn Monday February 7th 2022, Melanie Phillips at The Times, published an article about how dreadful (in her opinion) tattoos are. How that at one point they were reserved for sailors and those who are “transgressive.” She also claims that they belonged to “ancient cultures.” Does someone want to explain to her that the MaoriContinue reading “Melanie Phillips can kiss my tattooed BIPOC skin”
- Disability and the adults that hide itI come from a generation (Xennials) where we had one foot in one generation (Gen X) and one foot in another (Millennial), where the approach to how we were raised somewhat crossed both more distinct generations and left us with the scrappy stubbornness of the Gen Xers and the need and desire to deal withContinue reading “Disability and the adults that hide it”